In general I think clients can do their part by treat sex workers as they would other service industry workers-- research providers before trying to book, pay the price listed without negotiation, follow all screening requirements, treat us with courtesy, tip well. Acknowledge that what sex workers do is labor and that the sexual nature of it does not mean that anything goes...be continually learning consent. Clients and honestly everyone could do to challenge the internalized shame and stigma around sexuality that feeds into moral panics which have helped expand the prison system, to the detriment of all our safety. It would help if clients would expand who they consider booking or buying content from because of course racism and transphobia run within sex work as any other industry. If they really wish to learn more, I would suggest that clients read work (there are books, blog entries, news think pieces!) and social media posts from current sex workers as well as peer led advocacy organizations. There are diverse views but it’s better than getting their information about us from non-sex workers, celebrity activists, or people who have exited and no longer have “skin in the game” so to speak. Learn from and amplify the demands of sex worker movements and organizing from the past till present, connecting them to wider movements for workers, migrants, queers, black and brown people, disabled people-- because there are sex workers from all those groups, fighting on all those issues. Give money directly to struggling Sao Paulo sex workers, to local bail funds or prisoner support groups, to projects that seek to redistribute wealth while respecting people’s agency and dignity. Interrupt your friends and family when you hear whorephobic remarks and point them towards sex worker organizing and advocacy. Is there a book, tv show, or movie that had a significant impact on your life What was it, and what did it teach you Howard Zinn’s A People’s History of the United States. I haven’t read all of it, and might never do so. This book was introduced by a high school history teacher who laid the foundation for my political radicalization. I had never ever been taught U.S. history from a critical perspective with attention paid to the marginalized rather than the dominant characters. It was the first time I questioned the goodness of America. My family’s migration had been spun (as so many stories are) to encourage patriotism and assimilation, decontextualized from a structural understanding of colonialism and imperialism. This book and that incredible educator started me on a path to seeking knowledge I might not have otherwise. It started the challenging and reorganizing of how I understand this world, and what kind of world is worth striving for. How does your queerness interact with your work WHEW. I have a lot of feelings around this. For as long as I can remember I’ve felt at odds with being a girl and in my early twenties started identifying as non-binary and queer (which describes both my gender and sexuality). Yet I knew that my ability to book clients has relied on looking like a cis woman, straight or otherwise. I’ve always felt that in addition to class drag, I’m engaging in gender drag. I feel like class and gender are deeply intertwined along with my race and ethnicity. I look and feel “other” in multiple ways. In the earlier years of working it was hard to market myself. I rarely saw anyone who looked like me advertising and could not fit into a niche. Before I had a website or social media presence, it was common for potential clients to ask “Are you trans” I knew they wanted to know what genitalia I possessed and just answered that question instead, sometimes a little flippantly because in my experience transphobes are more likely to be timewasters. In my earlier years I was experimenting with my presentation frequently, losing clients along the way. Clients who saw me in one iteration would stop booking after I made a major change to my appearance. Learning to do makeup and dress myself in “feminine” ways has been personally fun because I had limited access to these forms of expression growing up; however it sometimes feels “required” for work and I’m always pushing back against that obligation. One of the best things about getting on social media as an out sex worker was seeing other queer, gender nonconforming, trans, gay as heck people in this industry. It’s beautiful and the support we try to give each other is wonderful. As I’ve become more comfortable with myself as queer I am attracting clients who are into that, even if they don’t say it. I wish that folks both inside and outside of the industry would recognize that not all sex workers are cis women. Even though queer folks are a minority, we are more likely to engage in trading sex compared to the general population. Rather than seeing us as separate or at odds however, it’s more useful to understand how queerness is irremovable from feminist struggles. Why do you think it is important for sex work to be decriminalized and how do you think it would change the way you work Some say the source of violence against sex workers is clients who are “bad men”. However the worst of men are empowered to mistreat and abuse sex workers through policies like end demand the Nordic Model. The riskiness of my work is compounded by criminalization. Yes there are violent men-- criminalization reduces the power of sex workers to screen, share resources (work space, clients, bad date lists, condoms, rides, etc), and practice self defense in the case of “bad men”. The criminal justice system does not protect nor fight for all survivors of gendered violence and especially not those who have been deemed criminal for selling sex to provide for themselves. Yes there are violent men-- and an overwhelming number of them are cops. The times that I’ve been assaulted or harmed by clients, I knew I had no recourse through law enforcement and that in fact they might add on to the trauma by arresting me. Decriminalization would allow me to work more safely. It would allow me to connect with peers without fear of punishment for doing so and to develop a wider social network that protects me when I know that law enforcement will never do that for me. Criminalizing sex for pay penalizes a form of labor that people perform to meet their needs under societies that do not share resources and care for all. Criminalization is a tool to punish people who are marginalized through the multiple hierarchies upholding capitalism. People who trade sex are disproportionately women, trans, gender nonconforming, disabled, migrant, non-white, poor (none of these descriptors being mutually exclusive). Decriminalizing sex work is one way to make the lives of marginalized people better. It doesn’t solve all issues inherent to work under capitalism, and it should not be expected to. What are your views on the anti trafficking industrial complex and their war on sex The anti-trafficking industrial complex exists to legitimize the functioning of capitalism. By positing that the sex trades are uniquely exploitative, their narratives obscure the abuse and exploitation that undergird all work. By “saving” trafficking victims through policing they leave the structures of power and abuse intact and in fact strengthen them. Work under capitalism is rife with sexism, homophobia, anti-black and racism, transphobia, ableism. These dynamics cut across all sectors because our societies are structured around hierarchies of power. At their core anti-trafficking groups reify the ability of the law enforcement to bring justice for vulnerable groups (such as women and children) through cracking down on activities labelled crimes. The role of these groups is to define which activities constitute a crime. Ultimately these groups are reformist and invested in the deepening of capitalist exploitation. They simply wish to add a progressive veneer of “caring”. My views are informed by prison and police abolitionist thought, which is critical of the entire framework of crime and punishment. I don’t believe that the state can ever guarantee well being and peace for all life that it seeks to dominate, because the dynamic of nonconsensual domination is inherently violent and death-dealing. Those deemed “criminal” will always be in the cross hairs. I find it laughable that anti-trafficking NGOs can speak about exploitation or patriarchal violence yet distance it from the apparatuses of policing and prison, as though these institutions are not formed and formative of white supremacist colonial patriarchy. Worse, they claim that the prison industrial complex can prevent violence, painting it as a flawed but ultimately benevolent system. At the end of the day, which narratives and actions work to deepen policing, borders, and inequality_ Which ones work to dismantle those structures and build collective power with space for personal autonomy What kind of music are you currently listening to Post punk, synth wave, electronic dream pop. Some 90s R&B which I missed out on as a kid. I miss going dancing and live music at small venues. I always return to folk punk when I’m sad. What would your dream date look like Something active such as a hike, a bike ride, or a yoga class. Or maybe a visit to an art exhibit, an interesting movie, or a stroll around town. A delicious meal either out or cooked together, good conversation and laughter. Afterward maybe we kiss and make out. Or puppy role play that might include me fucking them. Getting paid an absurd amount because they enjoyed it and want to treat me well. What are your top three pieces of advice for workers just starting out I wish that I’d found other sex workers sooner. As a newbie I was afraid of law enforcement so badly that it kept me from seeking sex worker spaces whether online or in person. I worked in isolation, made a lot of mistakes, and felt really lonely. So my first piece of advice would be to join a forum, a social media platform, read a blog, search up if there’s an organization in your locale providing services or doing advocacy. Find people who are doing what you’re doing. You don’t have to show your face or connect your work persona if you don’t want to. Second, figure out your boundaries and stick to them as much as possible. It’ll protect you in the long run and keep you from getting burned out. Get used to saying “no” in different ways and in different situations. Despite all the precautions you take, sometimes you’ll have a bad experience and you have to accept that those things are out of your control. Forgive yourself for mistakes, we all make them. Third, learn about security practices to avoid getting doxxed outed. My favorite restaurant is this is too hard...I’ll say any place that serves rice noodles, soupy or not. If you were to buy me a drink at a bar, you should buy me I’m not much of an alcohol drinker, let’s go to a coffee bar I’ll have a single shot cubano cortado with oat milk or a matcha latte. My favorite thing to be gifted is books, plants, bike tools, dark chocolate, and of course money. Want to meet Xuan Rayne in the flesh.